The importance of preventing COMPASSION FATIGUE

Compassion fatigue is a common occurrence with INFJ’s, empaths, introverts or anybody who is in a caring role. That’s why it’s so important to look after yourself. Because if you burn out, then you cannot show up as your best self when you’re caring for others.

In this video I talk about compassion fatigue, how I helped prevent it in myself, and I also introduced you to my good friend Emma from The Carers Club.

It's hard fitting in as an introvert or INFJ. Why that's okay!

When you’re an INFJ, you make up 1% of the world’s population. So sometimes, fitting in can feel really daunting. As an INFJ, at times, you can feel like a fish out of water!

In this You Tube video, I share why I think it’s okay if you don’t fit in… I also share my own story of receiving rejection, and how when I tried to change myself, I ended up feeling miserable.

Let me know what you think in the comments!

The INFJ personality is one that needs to speak out their feelings.

I wanted to quickly share with you why I’m so passionate about providing counselling online for those who are INFJ’s, introverts, empaths, HSP’s or simply someone who feels like they don’t quite fit in.

In this short blog post, I want to highlight one of the personality traits of an INFJ. If you are someone that identifies as an INFJ (and if you’re not sure, there are so many free Myer Briggs personality testing you can do online). An INFJ is someone who is an “external feeler”, but also an “internal thinker.”

Quite often, I find that INFJ’s are people who are quite independent in their own healing, wanting to do everything on their own and figure things out themselves. Unfortunately, sometimes as an INFJ we can become trapped in this “thinking loop”, where we go over and over again our thinking in regards to a particular situation or circumstance.

Sometimes it becomes hard to share our thoughts with another person, mainly because our thoughts are flying all over the place, and trying to share this with someone else can become difficult. Especially when that other person doesn’t quite get the way you view the world… And sadly, our well-meaning friends and family aren’t always the best listeners. When we are finally in a place to share our thoughts, it can be quite frustrating and invalidating to have someone interrupt your train of thought, trying to put in their own point of view.

Being an INFJ with “external feeling” also means we need to be able to externally express ourselves to fully grasp and understand what our feelings are. Which means, we are finally speak out our thoughts, we can achieve an “aha” moment on how we are actually feeling about that situation. When we speak out our thoughts, understand what it is that we are feeling, it then becomes a lot easier for us to find the solutions to our problems.

I think many people have this idea about counselling that only those with severe mental health issues, or those who are really suffering in life, need. But I think all INFJ’s can benefit from counselling. (And I provide it online because I know how much an introvert loves to stay home haha!).

When you receive INFJ counselling, it isn’t a place where the counsellor tells you what to do, or how to do it. We already know that you are the expert of your own life! You are the one that completely gets you!

But a good counsellor is someone that is able to draw out your story. Draw out all of those thoughts that are looping around in your mind, help you to identify what it is that you’re feeling about that situation, and help you to come to your own conclusions about what your solutions are. A good counsellor won’t interrupt you… As an INFJ counsellor, and as an INFJ myself, I know that you need the time and the space to be able to put into words what is that you’ve been thinking/feeling. You need someone to hold that space for you.. To be patient with you… To help validate within you that you’re on the right track.

For you to truly understand yourself, and your feelings, you need to be able to speak it out. And you need to be able to speak it out with the right person.

If you’d like to book an online appointment with me, I would love to hear from you. I’d love to hold that sacred space for you, as you begin to process what it is that you’re currently going through.

I look forward to it!

Discovering your personality type and if you're an introvert.

Never apologise
for burning
too brightly

Or collapsing
into yourself
every night

that is how
galaxies are made.

- Tyler Kent White

It’s taken me a long time to get to where I am- comfortable in my own skin, accepting of who I am and my personality. Being okay with being an INFJ and an introvert. I used to be so apologetic for my quirks, and the way I operated. I’d get so frustrated that one day I’d be loud and weird, but the very next day hiding in my shell and not wanting to be near or talk to another human.

Everyone would tell me I was an extrovert, because I was loud- I believed them. I tried living my life as an extrovert, but I crashed and burned and was so unhappy.

After I did a couple of personality tests and learnt more about who i was- it was the most freeing moment. So this is why I always felt like a fish out of water! And this is why I mid-party would hide in the bathroom! And THIS IS WHY my skin would begin to crawl and my head feel foggy after way too much socialising. It’s not because I dislike humans- it’s because I was around humans for too long!

I’m really passionate about helping people discover if they’re introverts. Because living in an extrovert world, trying to act like one when you’re not, is utterly exhausting. Introverts have a unique superpower to unleash on this world- something that I think only introverts can bring. (Yes, I know, extroverts have things to offer too, but we have been celebrating them since the beginning of time…. Sooo, y’know…)

Can I encourage you to do something? With the coronavirus pandemic, and everyone (almost) being forced to stay home- now is a perfect opportunity to really get to know yourself. We have nothing but time right now, and with that time we can go deep and internal and discover new things about who we are. This is the introverts moment to shine! You can do a free personality test at 16personalities.com (not a sponsored post!). It was here that I learnt I was an INFJ and it completely blew my mind. From there you’ll find so many resources, You Tube videos, and articles about your personality type. When we know ourselves, TRULY know ourselves, we can use that knowledge to operate as our best selves- which in the end will serve the world for good, if you let it.

Introverts- may I say this again… THIS IS OUR MOMENT TO SHINE!