The INFJ personality is one that needs to speak out their feelings.

I wanted to quickly share with you why I’m so passionate about providing counselling online for those who are INFJ’s, introverts, empaths, HSP’s or simply someone who feels like they don’t quite fit in.

In this short blog post, I want to highlight one of the personality traits of an INFJ. If you are someone that identifies as an INFJ (and if you’re not sure, there are so many free Myer Briggs personality testing you can do online). An INFJ is someone who is an “external feeler”, but also an “internal thinker.”

Quite often, I find that INFJ’s are people who are quite independent in their own healing, wanting to do everything on their own and figure things out themselves. Unfortunately, sometimes as an INFJ we can become trapped in this “thinking loop”, where we go over and over again our thinking in regards to a particular situation or circumstance.

Sometimes it becomes hard to share our thoughts with another person, mainly because our thoughts are flying all over the place, and trying to share this with someone else can become difficult. Especially when that other person doesn’t quite get the way you view the world… And sadly, our well-meaning friends and family aren’t always the best listeners. When we are finally in a place to share our thoughts, it can be quite frustrating and invalidating to have someone interrupt your train of thought, trying to put in their own point of view.

Being an INFJ with “external feeling” also means we need to be able to externally express ourselves to fully grasp and understand what our feelings are. Which means, we are finally speak out our thoughts, we can achieve an “aha” moment on how we are actually feeling about that situation. When we speak out our thoughts, understand what it is that we are feeling, it then becomes a lot easier for us to find the solutions to our problems.

I think many people have this idea about counselling that only those with severe mental health issues, or those who are really suffering in life, need. But I think all INFJ’s can benefit from counselling. (And I provide it online because I know how much an introvert loves to stay home haha!).

When you receive INFJ counselling, it isn’t a place where the counsellor tells you what to do, or how to do it. We already know that you are the expert of your own life! You are the one that completely gets you!

But a good counsellor is someone that is able to draw out your story. Draw out all of those thoughts that are looping around in your mind, help you to identify what it is that you’re feeling about that situation, and help you to come to your own conclusions about what your solutions are. A good counsellor won’t interrupt you… As an INFJ counsellor, and as an INFJ myself, I know that you need the time and the space to be able to put into words what is that you’ve been thinking/feeling. You need someone to hold that space for you.. To be patient with you… To help validate within you that you’re on the right track.

For you to truly understand yourself, and your feelings, you need to be able to speak it out. And you need to be able to speak it out with the right person.

If you’d like to book an online appointment with me, I would love to hear from you. I’d love to hold that sacred space for you, as you begin to process what it is that you’re currently going through.

I look forward to it!